Mid Week Musings

GLAD HE DIDN’T QUIT!

In a previous edition of ‘Midweek Musings’ we had referred to an Apple TV series called Long Way Up, which documents actor Ewan McGregor and his friend’s Charlie Boorman’s extraordinary 13,000 mile journey across South and Central America on electric motorcycles. Starting from the southernmost tip of South America, the friends traveled through 12 countries and finally ended their journey in Los Angeles 100 days later.

Long Way Up, incidentally, is third in a series of three incredible motorcycle journeys the two friends have made across continents. In Long Way Down, the second of the series, they travel 15,000 miles all the way from Scotland down to the tip of South Africa.

The first one is called Long Way Round, in which they bike across Europe, Russia and Canada, to New York City.

There is a particularly moving episode in Long Way Round when Ewan and Charlie are making their way through Mongolia. It is an excruciatingly difficult part of their journey as they travel through vast, muddy, rain-soaked plains and swollen rivers. Their bikes and vehicles get stuck in the mud innumerable times and their normally upbeat and cheerful demeanour starts becoming more and more pensive and grim.

There is a point when things get so bad, they are tempted to cut short their travels through Mongolia and take an easier route through Russia instead. But something within keeps encouraging them to stay the course, and eventually they come across a small orphanage in Mongolia where they spend time with the children and staff there.

And that is where Ewan McGregor ends up meeting a little child, Jamyan, who later goes on to become his adopted daughter!

Many years later, Ewan still gets emotional as he thinks about how close he came to quitting that particular leg of the journey and how grateful he is that he didn’t, because if had, he would never have met his daughter.

Ewan and his daughter, Jamyan
Ewan and his daughter, Jamyan

In the words of poet Frank Stanton,

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out-
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit-
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Have a great week!

Team Anahat

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Mid Week Musings

HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR ‘EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT’?

According to author Stephen R, Covey, the emotional bank account is a metaphor for the amount of trust that has been built up in a relationship. It is the feeling of safeness you have with another person.

As with an actual bank account, each of us makes deposits into, or withdrawals from, our emotional bank accounts. As a result, over time, our relationships with others get better or worse.

We make ‘deposits’ when we act with integrity and are thoughtful, kind, courteous, or appreciative to others. The more we make these deposits, the more others trust us, and when trust is high, communicating and working together becomes easier and smoother. When we make sufficient deposits over a period of time, we build enough ‘reserves’ with each other to weather misunderstandings or miscommunications that invariably arise even in the best of relationships. 

BUT… if our emotional bank accounts are depleted because we have made too many ‘withdrawals’, then our trust levels with others becomes dangerously low!

If we are constantly discourteous, or fail to keep our word, or if we over-react or ignore others, and act arbitrary or superior, our trust levels with them naturally diminish. Interactions become fraught and tense and we find ourselves measuring every word we say, because our relationships with others have become emotional minefields!

More often than not, it is not the huge glaring faults and mistakes that destroy a relationship, but the dozens of smaller, subtler ones. After all, in a relationship, ‘the little things are the big things’. It is also worth remembering that our most constant relationships require our most constant deposits. 

So how do we go about making meaningful deposits in the emotional bank accounts in our lives? Perhaps the best way is by taking the time to truly understand each other. Not only is this an important deposit in itself, but it is also the key to making other deposits. Because, remember, what looks like a deposit to you might actually be a withdrawal for the other person. It is only a deposit if the other person also considers it one!

Have a great week with many meaningful deposits!

(And if you would like to learn how to truly understand other people at a deep level, consider signing up for our upcoming certification programmes which will give you deep and valuable insights into human personality, and teach you how to bring out the best in those you live and work with)  

Team Anahat

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Mid Week Musings

7 Good Reasons Why You Should Stay Humble

Humility is a fascinating concept, but an oft-misunderstood one. A lot of people equate humility with submissiveness and docility, and end up recoiling somewhat from the thought of being humble. One can hardly blame them, for no one particularly enjoys being a ‘doormat’ that others walk over.

Real humility, however, is something quite different. The word humility, incidentally, comes from the Latin word ‘humus’, which literally means ‘earth’ or ‘ground’. A humble person is, thus, someone who is grounded, down-to-earth, and rooted in reality. 

Interestingly, the word ‘human’ also has its roots in the same Latin word. According to author Richard Rohr, “Being human means acknowledging that we’re made from the earth and will return to the earth. We are earth that has come to consciousness. … And then we return to where we started — in the heart of God. Everything in between is a school of love.”

Humility, humanity, honesty, and love have many overlapping characteristics and, in many ways, seem to be synonyms for each other. So what do humble people look like?

1. Humble people are self-aware: They have a pretty good idea of their own strengths and areas of development. And one big reason for this is that… 

2. They are honest and open: Humble people are open to feedback and input from others because they realize that they don’t have all the answers. They realize they don’t necessarily ‘see the whole picture’ and so they remain open to new ways of seeing things, and even themselves, the way others see them. They realize they aren’t perfect and know it all, and because of that…

3. They remain life-long learners: Humble people realize that there is a lot they don’t know. They understand there is always room for learning and growth, and they seldom have a know-it-all attitude. 

4. Humble people are confident in who they are! This may seem like a contradiction-in-terms, but as the author Stephen Covey wisely notes, “Only those who recognize that they don’t have the answers ever go looking for answers, and only those who recognize their own potential ever have the courage and the confidence to go looking.” 

5. They don’t put others down: Because humble people are ‘comfortable in their own skin’, they don’t have a need to belittle others. It has been said that criticising others is simply a dishonest way of praising ourselves. Humble people realize that just as they themselves are a ‘work in progress’, others are too.

6. They are genuinely good listeners: The ability to listen well is grounded in a desire to genuinely learn more. One of the great benefits of being a good listener is that not only do others enjoy having you around, after a while you realize you have learned a lot.

7. Humble people have an encouraging spirit: One feels safe, respected and valued around humble people. As Maya Angelou put it so well, “People will forget what you said, they will even forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

Stay humble! It’s the best way to be truly happy! 🙂

Have a great week! (And do check out our certification programmes which teach you how to become happier, more self-aware and understanding of others)


Team Anahat

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