Have you ever struggled to change something that you didn’t like about yourself and felt frustrated that you couldn’t? Have you found yourself stuck in patterns that you couldn’t shift despite your best efforts?
Every now and then we find ourselves in a mood when all we can see are our ‘imperfections’, parts that we can’t ‘fix’, parts that keep us from being our ‘perfect selves’…
‘If only I looked better…’
‘If only I was more confident…’
‘Oh no! I’ve done the same thing once again…’
We are filled with shame with what we perceive to be our persistent flaws.
Rather than engage in a losing battle, fighting to wipe out the flaws, perhaps we can perceive them differently. ‘There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in’, sings Leonard Cohen in his song, Anthem. These imperfections may just be the doorway to discovering and embracing our unique gifts.
Kintsugi, a celebrated Japanese art form, involves repairing pottery not by eliminating the cracks and the flaws but highlighting them even more. The method involves filling the cracks with lacquer infused with gold, silver or platinum powder. The result is an even more beautiful bowl, a masterpiece.